The question is about seemingly ordinary words lined up in a row, but in reality it is much more than that. A question is a magical tool that activates an answer according to the nature of the question. Questioning is a system of skills and tools for using questions to broaden and expand your approach to any situation.
But before I teach you how to manage your life through questions, let me explain a little about why questions work so powerfully.
Our brains are built for thinking through questions. Even if we don’t know, a question always precedes a thought. If I ask you a question right now, “What is 5×5?” your brain can’t resist – it HAS to find the answer and say it! Often the answer to the question is an action in your head.
Ancient peoples were guided by the question – how do you get to the vein? The real change came when the question changed – how to get water to us?
So questions activate a great energy that moves us to action. If the question is well posed, it can bring great change and development.
When a problem arises in life, we cannot solve it with the same thinking that got us to that problem. You have to change your perspective. But to change our perspective, we must first change our questions.
Your whole well-being and quality of life depends on the questions you ask yourself every day. If you’re used to asking yourself, “Why don’t I ever fail?” or “Why do I always attract these kinds of relationships?”, then the answer and the experience will come.
Instead, it would be more empowering to ask “What kind of feedback or messages does consistent failure bring me?”, “How can I change my experience of relationships? What would I need to change/learn in order to do this?” Such questions activate a completely different response and experience.
Learn to consciously direct your energy and vitality through questions to the experience you want to invite into your life.
Secondly, it is also very helpful to communicate with your loved ones through empowering questions, especially in situations of conflict. Instead of justifying, attacking, defending, justifying, ask a heartfelt and understanding question. You’ll see how the misunderstanding will be resolved!
Let me share with you some of my favourite anchor questions:
What are my options to move in the direction I want to go?
What could I let go of in my life?
How can I be more kind to myself?
What can I do more to change the way I feel about myself?
What do I really want?
What is important to me at the moment?
What can I learn from this situation?
The question can be an invitation, a prayer, a bomb that explodes or a rocket that lifts off.
What kind of impact do you want to make with your questions? What kind of questions will your behaviour respond to?